She shares a simple formula of  asking empowering questions to transform challenges.  Niurka guides listeners to become a master of mental and emotional state through mantra and alchemy.

Click here to get High Vibe Radio’s interview with Niurka, recorded June 23, 2010.

High Vibe Radio is a talk show that will raise your vibration and keep you coming back for more each week. Hosts Amy and Emmanuel have positive conversations that will serve to inspire you to live the highest vision for your life today.

May 27, 2010

“Transform Your Belief Systems”

Join Niurka as she introduces Supreme Influence, her teaching and practice which illuminates how you can consciously transform and direct your beliefs, attitudes and language to create inner congruency while authentically living on purpose and materializing your highest vision. Learn how to be even more aware of the unlimited abundance and opportunities in your life!

Niurka will be joined by Doug Grady, President of High Achiever Network, and Chris Widener.

Call 888-360-EVENTS to purchase tickets.

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In my last post I mentioned how essential congruency, rapport and flexibility are in presentations and influence; and I encouraged you to become aware of your level of congruency, rapport and flexibility in your daily life.  So…if you practiced (and even if you didn’t!) I’ve got a quick, fun quiz for you:

1) What happens in a conversation or presentation if a speaker lacks congruency, rapport, or flexibility:

a) The audience rolls their eyes

b) The audience starts texting their friends or getting up to go to the bathroom

c) The audience gets amnesia and can’t remember what was presented

d) All of the above.

2) Ok, here’s a more empowering multiple choice: when you have absolute congruency, rapport and flexibility, which of the following are true?

a) Your audience jumps up and down and cheers and says let’s march!

b) Your audience becomes raving fans: they love and respect and adore you and hang on every word you say, hungering for more

c) Your audience gets the message so deeply, clearly and completely that they could practically teach what you’ve shared with them

d) All of the above.

If you answered “D) All of the above” to both questions – congratulations!  Fifty extra points to you!

Yes, congruency, rapport and flexibility are three of the most important points to influence anyone.  So how can you develop these skills even more?

1) Congruency: Congruency is the rock-steady power state that emerges when your thoughts, words and actions are aligned with your higher self and the universal flow.  When you are clear, centered, and tapped in to your inner wisdom, you have congruency.  It’s also part confidence, and part knowledge.  When you know your subject inside and out, you have the confidence to speak with authority.  But even if you don’t have total confidence on a subject just yet, passion can make up the difference!  So put yourself in states of excellence.  Create juice, momentum, inspiration within you… and it will ooze and infect your audience with enthusiasm, too.

2) Rapport: Rapport is more than just “liking” someone – it’s having a deep, authentic connection, or feeling of familiarity.  People like people who are like themselves – so observe your audience and respond to their needs.  Ask questions and engage them in dialogue.  Respect your audience’s intelligence, and assume you have their respect, too.

3) Flexibility: Flexibility comes with awareness of subtle cues from your audience.  Are they twiddling their thumbs, texting, or tapping their feet?  If they are, you’ve probably lost them for a second, and it’s time to grab their attention with something unexpected.  Notice – are they totally with you?  Captivate them and go deeper, and give them even juicier bits of information – beyond what they were expecting.  Tailor your presentation to your audience’s needs and they will be equally responsive and appreciative of you and your message.

These are just three of the most essential points to become a dynamic public speaker.  Over the past 15 years as a presenter, speaker and trainer, I’ve distilled thousands more skills and strategies that can completely elevate your presentations.

Remember…

One person’s evolution elevates the consciousness of the planet – You are the one!

Peace & Blessings,

Niurka

So what’s behind this collective terror?

Public speaking and presentations.

How many times have you heard a speaker that puts you to sleep? Or maybe you’ve left a presentation entertained, but it doesn’t translate into significant, measurable results in your business or life.

What if you knew with certainty that with just a handful of simple steps you could elevate your skills and deliver powerful, persuasive presentations, leaving your audience entertained, inspired, and motivated to support your cause? What if your content and method of delivery had the force to create quantum improvement and lasting change in people’s lives?

And… these same simple steps can be applied to positively influence your family, friends, clients and colleagues every day!

Here are three essential keys to deliver persuasive and dynamic presentations, every time:

1) Congruency: How strongly do YOU believe what you’re saying? How committed are you to your message? Your audience will only champion your vision to the extent you believe in it. This is true not just for presentations, but also for life.

2) Rapport: Does your audience LIKE and TRUST you? Do they unconsciously feel drawn to you, knowing that you have their best interests at heart? Do they embrace your suggestions and say, “me too!” instead of “so what?” Rapport takes the struggle out of the interaction, and makes it easy and enjoyable for everyone.

3) Flexibility: Keep changing your approach until you reach your objective. Adapt your communication to speak into your audience’s listening. Everyone learns differently, so adapting to the needs of your group ensures they get the message.

For the past 15 years, I’ve delivered thousands of presentations for groups from 5 to 50,000. I’ve shared the stage with some of the most influential speakers in the world, and I’ve uncovered exactly what makes or breaks a presentation. There are thousands of factors that create influence – but I’ve synthesized them into a formula of the most effective skills and strategies, which will instantly quantum leap your results in presentations.

So, I’ve given you three keys, and in the next post I’ll explain how you can enhance your congruency, rapport and flexibility right away. Awareness is the first step. So this week, just become aware of your level of congruency, rapport, and flexibility in your most important conversations or presentations!

Remember…

When you change, the world around you changes – You have that much power!

Peace & Abundant Blessings,

Niurka

Hello Niurka.  I’m not quite happy with my life, with the way of living.  Sometimes I feel that I don’t have any talents within me.  Can you please show me some path to bring my talents if I have any?

Niurka’s Response:

Everyone has unique talents and gifts, including YOU!  I have a very powerful tool that will help you discover and cultivate your talents.

This technique will direct your focus so you begin to become even more aware of your talents.  This process is called, “Empowering Questions.”

I often say that Questions are the Answer. We are constantly in the process of asking and answering our own questions.  Some questions direct our focus toward what we want, while other questions expand on disempowering thoughts.

You can purposefully craft questions that direct your focus toward expanding empowering possibilities.

Here is the simple formula for asking empowering questions:

1)   Begin with “how” or “what.”

2)   Stated in the affirmative or positive.

3)   Build momentum with words like, “even more” or “right now.”

Here are a few empowering questions to help you get started:

• How can I be even more aware of my talents?
• How can I cultivate even more of my gifts and talents, right now?
• How can I acknowledge and appreciate my talents even more?
• How can I share my gifts and talents even more?
• How can I discover even more of my talents?
• What talents am I already aware of?
• What comes naturally to me?
• What do I love doing?
• What do I love about me?
• What can I do to appreciate myself even more right now?

In the beginning, this process may feel a little strange – especially if in the past you had conditioned your brain to believe that you didn’t have any talents.  So if you ask a question like, “what talents am I already aware of?” and your brain says, “nothing!” Then ask yourself, “If there were to be something, what would it be?”  “If I were to have a talent, what would it be?”  “If I were to become aware of a talent right now, what would it be?”  Just keep asking and the answers will come!

Ask yourself these questions every day… even several times a day.  It will cause your brain to look for answers, and empowering answers will come.  It may take some practice, but very soon you will begin to become aware of many of your talents.  You will soon realize that you have all kinds of gifts and talents that you may have overlooked in the past.

As you continually become even more aware of your talents, focus on them.  Notice them.  Appreciate them.  Feed them.  Continually give yourself credit for all the talents you have!

Namaste,

Niurka

How do you know when you’ve made a great decision? Do you know immediately, in the moment of decision, or do you know in time, when you see the results? One decision has the power to transform everything. So what would it be worth to consistently make conscious decisions with clarity, certainty and confidence, knowing that no matter the outcome, you’ve made the most powerful choice?

The quality of your life is a reflection of the quality of your decisions. Are you fully aware of the decisions you are making from moment to moment? It’s easy to make decisions on “autopilot,” choosing today the same as yesterday, out of habit or repetition, or based on what other people are saying or doing. If you drink coffee every morning, 364 days in a row, it’s extremely likely that you’ll choose a cup of coffee on the 365th day—even when you have infinite choice! (You could choose water, or tea, or juice, or nothing at all.) Small decisions like this add up over time and create your destiny. That’s why it’s so important to stay alert each time you make a decision—so you can choose wisely and purposefully.

Whenever I find myself faced with a decision, I ask myself three questions that guide me in making the highest choice for my life. You can apply these questions for all decisions, even the little ones.

The most powerful decisions are those you make when you are fully aware and choosing in alignment with your purpose and values. Not just for the biggest and most important decisions, but for all the choices you make in life. Here are the three questions I ask myself to guide me in choosing wisely:

1) Is it essential? By “essential,” I don’t mean “necessary” or “required.” I mean, is it of my essence? Is it in alignment with who I really am and what’s most important to me?

2) Will it elevate and uplift my life? By that I mean, does it empower and inspire me? Do I feel energized by it? Each decision you make will either advance you toward your ultimate vision or hold you back. When faced with a choice, consciously follow the path that will make you stronger, wiser, healthier and happier.

3) Having made the decision, how do I feel? Imagine yourself in the future looking back on now, having realized the successful outcome of your decision. Notice what you see, hear and feel. Try on all the possible scenarios by visualizing the result of your decision in your mind before you make the choice. If hindsight is 20/20, give yourself this gift in advance.

Asking these three questions will inspire meaningful decisions. Usually, people make decisions emotionally and then justify them logically. This process brings awareness to both the emotional and logical reasons so that you discover and pursue the greatest options in support of your ultimate vision.

Wholeheartedly commit to your decision. The Latin root of the word decision means “to cut off.” So a decision is the choice to cut off other possibilities and clearly focus your energy in one direction while remaining open to the infinite possibilities around you. Asking those three questions provides the clarity, certainty and confidence to make wise decisions based on who you are and what’s most important to you.

Creating a state of success

Physiology
The first ingredient to a state of being that is resourceful and that invites success into your life is your use of physiology. Physiology is how you move your body. Creating a physiological state that is empowered is important because our motion creates emotion, meaning that how we move impacts how we feel.

Have you ever been depressed or have you ever met a depressed person? If I were to ask you to describe a depressed person for me, could you do it? If I were to ask you where their shoulders are, up or down, could you tell me? Probably down, right? If I were to ask you how is their breathing, deep diaphragm breaths or shallow, what would you say? You would probably say shallow. How about their eye contact, direct or down? You would probably say down.

Do you know that it is a fact that if you actually sat next to a depressed person and you mirrored their physiology, including breathing and posture, that it would be a short period of time before you duplicated those exact emotional states? Motion creates emotion. Be aware of how you hold yourself and how your physical stance has the power to influence your state of being.

Language
The second ingredient is language. This implies not just the words that you use but also how you use them. Language is not purely external. It is also internal. That little voice inside your head dictates how you communicate with you and thus how you take that internal communication and turn it into external communication. The words that you use describe yourself, your life, and where you are going are powerful determinants which reveal the state of being that you are in.
If you are interesting in success, in being resourceful, and in creating the reality you desire, pay attention to your language! Be aware of how you linguistically interpret your environment, situations that you encounter, and your self image. If you desire to influence yourself and others, language is a great place to start.

Beliefs
Beliefs often develop in childhood. If someone said something to you when you were five and now you are well into adulthood and still operating off the same software, you may be in need of a refresh. One of the goals of studying and learning the Laws of Supreme Influence is updating that software and creating more positive and loving beliefs about who you are and what you are put on this Earth to do.
Transforming beliefs that do not invite success is about giving you the option to transform what you believe to be true about you. When you look inward and analyze how you see yourself and who you believe yourself to be, it is clear what challenges may exist. Likewise, what you believe about the world around you will alter how you interact with everyone that you meet. Understanding the power of our beliefs is fundamental to success.

Focus
So the first ingredient is physiology, second is language, third is beliefs, and now the fourth ingredient is focus. And it’s not just what you focus on but it’s how you focus. Whether or not you will attract success into your life depends on your subconscious programming. One aspect of your subconscious programming is your state of being and your ability to create an empowered state immediately despite what may be happening in your environment. This empowered state is only possible with the proper use of the three previous ingredients as well as a purposeful use of focus. These four ingredients and how they create resource in the lives of successful leaders are discussed in greater detail at our events.

Internal Representations
Your internal representations determine how you perceive the world. Internal representations look out into the infinite possibilities before us and select a very small percentage of what’s going on that harmonizes with our subconscious and then presents these images to us. So we see the world and then we tell a story about what we see, and that story becomes reality in our own mind. It is how we interpret the world around us, through filters, that impacts what we are able to perceive and therefore what we can then attract into our lives. This is the fifth ingredient to success and resource.

Identity
The next thing that impacts what you’re able to attract is your identity. This is the most profound and important ingredient as well as the most all encompassing. Your identity is the subconscious database of information which answers the question “Who am I?” How you answer this question drives your life. It determines what bits of information you are able to perceive. If you would identify yourself as a spiritual being, you are going to attract different things into your life than if you see yourself as a victim or as someone who struggles to find success. If you identify yourself as someone who is attracting wealth, abundance, and prosperity then you are going to act differently than if you see yourself as broke, or identify with a poverty consciousness. So your subconscious identity, meaning how you answer the question who am I, will impact your ability to perceive the world and what you attract into your life.

When our mind, language, focus, values, identity and physiology are in alignment creating our highest self, the Universe becomes an ocean, full of life, limitless and powerful. You can then see the abundant Universe and utilize the gifts around you for the benefit of your life as well as the lives of others. A resourceful state must be produced for the good of all, a labor of love that has as its sole purpose the betterment of humankind and the self. Personal benefit has no true weight if we do not see how our internal resources can be used to enlighten not only ourselves but those around us as well. We are all connected.

Did you improvise, adapt and overcome?

I’m a big believer that you can have your cake and eat it, too – when you have just a little creativity, flexibility and resolve.

My life has taught me that beyond every challenge is a seed of great opportunity, and the greater the challenge, the greater the opportunity. Haven’t you ever said to yourself, “I would never be where I am or who I am if it wasn’t for __(blank)__?” (The “blank” being a past experience that you perceived at the time as incredibly traumatic or negative, and with hindsight 20/20, now you have the wisdom to recognize the gift beyond that challenge.)

When you look for the gift even in the midst of the challenge, you can give yourself the gift of hindsight now. What would happen to your life if you consistently sought the treasure beyond challenge?

Remember…

When you change, the world around you changes – You have that much power!

Love & Light,

Niurka

But wait! Only answer this question if you’re really serious about quantum transformation, because it has the power to blow the boundaries out of your previous thinking and launch you in a whole new direction toward the indestructible experience of… Limitless, Boundless Happiness.

Oooh! That sounds delicious, doesn’t it?

Let’s explain that first question… Without seriously expanding the boundaries of thinking and paradigms beyond stale old limiting beliefs, authentically experiencing “Limitless Boundless Happiness” might seem way out of reach for most people.

So asking, “what would NOT happen if you didn’t know unhappiness?” will cause your brain to search in previously unexplored dimensions of thinking to find the answer, and in doing so, you might actually annihilate past patterns and associations of unhappiness in your brain wiring. It begins shifting your experience of unhappiness, discontent, frustration, agitation, etc.

Now that’s one powerful question! With one powerful question you can elevate your thinking and your entire experience of life.

Here’s where it gets really interesting: Sometimes it’s easier to know what you don’t want than what you do want; and when you get crystal clear about what it isn’t, then you can skyrocket into infinite possibility, and total, authentic happiness.

In a previous post, I explained some of the more thrilling consequences of being in a state of “Limitless, Boundless Happiness”. Things like spontaneous smiling and laughter, heightened energy & elevated vibration, relief from negative emotion, increased productivity & goal achievement, and generous outpourings & receiving of love, appreciation and abundance.

But is that state too inconceivable for many? Does it sound too good to be true? Let’s first understand it’s opposite to really get to the heart of its beauty and power… So rather than tell you what “Limitless, Boundless Happiness” can do for you… here’s what it WON’T do for you:

• * You won’t feel stressed, anxious or overwhelmed
• * You won’t be annoyed with people or easily angered
• * You won’t feel lazy, unproductive or experience creative block
• * You won’t have insatiable cravings
• * You won’t experience a lack of purpose, or lack of meaning in your life
• * You won’t walk around miserable, bored or apathetic
• * You won’t feel tired, lethargic, or emotionally drained
• * You won’t let rewarding opportunities pass you by
• * You won’t repulse other people or yourself

In fact, it’s just about the OPPOSITE of these conditions. Can you imagine that?

Well, if you’re looking for some juicy high-amperage happiness that will shake up, loosen and annihilate any sticky, stagnant bits of unhappiness, or any of the aforementioned conditions – join me for one of my live trainings!

P.S. – Did you know that the first question I asked… “What would NOT happen if you didn’t know unhappiness?”… is type of question is called “Quantum Linguistics.” I teach Quantum Linguistics at Supreme Influence into Action, our transformational seven day training. It’s one of the tools of the Linguistic Jedi. In fact, I have a whole series of these powerful questions that will blow the boundaries out of the problem, or sticky old way of thinking. Supreme Influence into Action is coming up soon.

Remember…

When you change, the world around you changes – You have that much power!

Love & Light,

Niurka