Greetings & Blessings!
In my last post I mentioned how essential congruency, rapport and flexibility are in presentations and influence; and I encouraged you to become aware of your level of congruency, rapport and flexibility in your daily life. So…if you practiced (and even if you didn’t!) I’ve got a quick, fun quiz for you:
1) What happens in a conversation or presentation if a speaker lacks congruency, rapport, or flexibility:
a) The audience rolls their eyes
b) The audience starts texting their friends or getting up to go to the bathroom
c) The audience gets amnesia and can’t remember what was presented
d) All of the above.
2) Ok, here’s a more empowering multiple choice: when you have absolute congruency, rapport and flexibility, which of the following are true?
a) Your audience jumps up and down and cheers and says let’s march!
b) Your audience becomes raving fans: they love and respect and adore you and hang on every word you say, hungering for more
c) Your audience gets the message so deeply, clearly and completely that they could practically teach what you’ve shared with them
d) All of the above.
If you answered “D) All of the above” to both questions – congratulations! Fifty extra points to you!
Yes, congruency, rapport and flexibility are three of the most important points to influence anyone. So how can you develop these skills even more?
1) Congruency: Congruency is the rock-steady power state that emerges when your thoughts, words and actions are aligned with your higher self and the universal flow. When you are clear, centered, and tapped in to your inner wisdom, you have congruency. It’s also part confidence, and part knowledge. When you know your subject inside and out, you have the confidence to speak with authority. But even if you don’t have total confidence on a subject just yet, passion can make up the difference! So put yourself in states of excellence. Create juice, momentum, inspiration within you… and it will ooze and infect your audience with enthusiasm, too.
2) Rapport: Rapport is more than just “liking” someone – it’s having a deep, authentic connection, or feeling of familiarity. People like people who are like themselves – so observe your audience and respond to their needs. Ask questions and engage them in dialogue. Respect your audience’s intelligence, and assume you have their respect, too.
3) Flexibility: Flexibility comes with awareness of subtle cues from your audience. Are they twiddling their thumbs, texting, or tapping their feet? If they are, you’ve probably lost them for a second, and it’s time to grab their attention with something unexpected. Notice – are they totally with you? Captivate them and go deeper, and give them even juicier bits of information – beyond what they were expecting. Tailor your presentation to your audience’s needs and they will be equally responsive and appreciative of you and your message.
These are just three of the most essential points to become a dynamic public speaker. Over the past 15 years as a presenter, speaker and trainer, I’ve distilled thousands more skills and strategies that can completely elevate your presentations.
Remember…
One person’s evolution elevates the consciousness of the planet – You are the one!
Peace & Blessings,
Niurka
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